Financial Domination (aka FinDom) is a growing trend. Beautiful ladies collect loads of cash and expensive gifts from rich and willing men, and they are loving it. The outsiders looking in, who don’t understand the concept, can be confused and at times appalled. But, Monthly Fetish is here to explain it all and make it sexy and glamorous, just like it is.
Ready, Willing & Able to Pay
Imagine being a beautiful woman who is into fetish, bondage and/or even control. Wealthy men get off by buying you lavish gifts and dropping a ton of coinage your way. And, they want nothing in return except to submit to you, a dominant woman, and relinquish control over to you regarding their finances. There’s no coercion—these men are ready, willing and able participants who seek these women out.
Here’s the very interesting part of it all. It’s very rare that the Domme (the woman) and the submissive (or slave) ever meet. All the transactions and chatting is done almost exclusively online.
Payments can be a one-time thing, like a Tribute, but some men do regular transfers each month. I heard of one wealthy business man who gave a dominatrix a black American Express card and told her to charge up as much as she wanted each month. Another Pro Domme got paid $42k for an hour’s worth of web camming without even having to webcam. It’s not unusual for a man to give one of these women their passwords and/or control of their bank accounts. Sometimes, these same men will ask the women to give them a budget to live on.
So, these wealthy men get off on this. I bet you’re wondering how? The men are physically aroused by the Domme taking over their finances, giving them a ton of cash, or dropping major bucks for an over-the-top gift. These are men who measure their self-worth by how much money they have in the bank and like this type of psychological control.
Even more interesting is these wealthy men, some of whom control Fortune 500 companies, and rule the financial world, are usually 35 and under, have a family or partner, and surprisingly have low self-esteem. So instead of being humiliated, rejected, lonely, or feeling unwanted in the “real world”, these men seek these dommes out who have control over the situation—they can relax worry-free and are actually getting off on it. It’s an escape for them. The only problem is when reality sets in and the guy sees a giant hole in his wallet.
Although these men are seen as successful, they might not be so great at talking to women. The dommes might be nice to these men that they refer to as “wallets”, but these men would rather pay and be spoken down to by a woman than ignored completely.
FinDom is Totally Accessible
FinDom started solely with traditional dominatrixes—men would find them by word of mouth, Backpages, Craigslist, and other websites. When social media took off, clients were able to find dommes on Twitter and Facebook. It was just part of the services the dominatrix offered clients. Now FinDom is totally accessible and not only done by professional Dommes or financial dominatrixes. Regular every day girls with looks and like the ability to control can get on sites like Clips4Sale and get tipped out by these men. All you need is a Twitter account, some dominant looking photos of yourself, and the ability to accept payment, so the market is becoming over saturated with women just demanding money.
Men can’t always tell the difference between a Pro Domme and Financial Domme versus these poser women just demanding money. The pros and true FinDoms spend years establishing themselves and honing their skills to dominate.
It’s a Mental Game
The new influx of Dommes are under 25, lured in by money, and don’t always know what they’re doing, some men are even into the blackmail fantasy aspect of the fetish where men hand over information, photos, etc. that could greatly compromise them. It’s a mental game where the women are getting “paid” to not make any of this information public. It’s a very intense fetish and only a seasoned Domme should venture into this aspect of Financial Domination.
The flip side is that the submissive can sometimes take huge risks by participating in these types of activities on a financial and mental level. If they meet the wrong person they could be ruined financially, incur huge debts, lose expensive property, and become anxious and depressed due to the guilt of having this type of relationship. And if their wife or girlfriend finds out they’re engaging in this, it could be the end of that too. So, like anything in life, there needs to be some common sense in the equation. Know who you’re talking to, be careful with the information you are giving out.