Spanking has become quite popular with the rise of mainstream films like 50 Shades of Grey. Plus, over the last decade it’s become the fashionable thing in many millennial circles to announce an interest in bondage or other forms of sadomasochism—this is usually tame with furry handcuff, hot wax and the occasional spanking.
Establishing a Fetish
Fetishes like this are usually established when we’re young. Maybe you were spanked as a child for being naughty or you went online and Googled spanking and were hooked. Sometimes, these things don’t come out until we’re adults and come out of nowhere—it’s a fetish we never knew we had or something our partner suggested we try to liven things up in the bedrooms.
Feeling the Rush
There are people who get off on watching, performing the spanking, and/or receiving the spanking. It’s not uncommon for people to orgasm just from spanking. But, why do we get off on it? When we’re stressed or in pain, our brains release chemicals…a lot of chemicals like endorphin, serotonin, melatonin, epinephrine, norepinephrine, and dopamine that re-balance our bodies and make us feel good again. Dopamine is one of the key players present in our bodies during pleasure and pain, and it gives us a rush and/or orgasm. Another reason is that sexual peaks are achieved when blood flow increases and collects in our hot spots aka erogenous zones. Spanking adds pleasure since there are lots of nerves in your backside right next door to your naughty bits. The spank will send waves through your skin and stimulate your erogenous zones.
Everything Except the Kitchen Sink
Erotic spanking usually occurs with a hand, but sometimes a belt, hairbrush, wooden spoon, switch, or paddle are introduced into the mix. Many people prefer a whip. No matter what you use, you must know how to properly spank them so you won’t hurt them. Communication is always key—make sure to set ground rules and safe words. If you’re giving the spanking, you need to check in with your partner receiving the spanking to make sure they’re OK.
Where & How is Crucial
Now that’s all set up, get comfortable and ready to bend over or spank. Where to spank is crucial. Go for meaty/fleshy parts of the body (AKA the lower part). You can stray to below the buttocks, but for safety sake, stay on the butt. If you’re using your hand to spank, you can go open palm with fingers together, open palm with fingers spread, or with a cupped hand. Watch your partner’s reactions and make sure it’s pleasurable for them after just a few smacks. If you’re going to be more intense with the spanking, we suggest you take a class at a local adult store or through a reputable dominatrix or dungeon. We cannot relay how important safety is.
Spanking can be a fun fetish and a new way to get closer to a lover, whether you’re on the receiving or giving end of it all.