When Food Becomes a Fetish
If you’ve ever spilled something on yourself, no matter what it is, at first there’s the shock of hot or cold and then depending on where you are probably a mild panic because you’ve gotten wet or messy or both. What if that was the point of it though? To get as wet and messy as you possibly can all for the joy of the sensation, smell, taste and experience.
If that’s your goal then maybe sploshing is for you!
I have to say there’s a thrill or simply a ‘feel good’ sensation when anything liquid hits your skin. Every time you shower or bathe the first droplets of water as they cascades down your body feels good and you take pleasure in the sensation. Body wash oozing down your leg, lotion smeared on your arm… shampoo and conditioner squeezed or massaged onto your hair and scalp – all give you a tactile sensation that’s enjoyable. So if you look at it that way everyone has something they can relate to when it comes to the pleasurable sensation of some sort of liquid hitting your body.
Now take that tactile memory and apply it to food – pudding, chocolate sauce, whipped cream, baked beans. Yes, savory or sweet it doesn’t matter, but what does matter to someone who has a Wet and Messy (WAM) fetish is that any form of slimy, slippery, drippy food is used on the another person for erotic pleasure.
Don’t misunderstand though, not all WAM or sploshing has a sex act involved. In fact, most have a person fully dressed getting doused in some sort of drippy food.
“Sploshing is a one-of-a-kind mix of squishy, sexy, safe and sticky carousing with a menu of edible and slimy, tasty and grimy dishes for you to rub all over yourself, your friends and others,” explains San Francisco Splosher Sean Kelly.
What’s in the Books?
Sitophilia refers to sexual arousal or gratification achieved through the use of food.
- Sexual arousal from eating food from another person’s body.
- Sexual interest in using food for sexual gratification or arousal.
Salirophilia is sexual arousal gained from in some way dirtying or messing up a partner. The partner is usually attractive and the sexual gratification arises from actions such as covering them in filth, messing their hair or tearing their clothing.
- Sexual arousal gained from marring a partner’s attractiveness.
Is There More to Wet and Messy?
As quoted on Wikipedia from the book, The Out of Sync Child by Carol Stock Kranowitz, one unproven theory is that individuals drawn to WAM have low tactile sensitivity, which is increased and intensified by wet substances acting as a lubricant under applied pressure or friction. “Messy Play” is a common clinical therapy used in treating hypo-tactile patients to give them an outlet and appropriate time and place to engage in mess-making. So maybe some of us are just born with this desire to go against the grain and fight social norms about being clean and proper by being wet and messy instead.
Dr Mark Griffiths noted the following on his blog, “…an online posting that featured lots of information about lots of sexual fetishes and paraphilia’s that included some information on ‘wamming’ that I have not come across anywhere else. I reproduce it here but cannot vouch for the veracity of the information as there are no supporting references (however, the information had good face validity which is why I thought I would include it in this blog).”
“WAM (Wet and Messy) – Wamming or gunging is the use of various lotion-like substances to have sex play with. Use of stickier substances (like honey, jam, or marshmallow fluff) is sometimes called food bondage. Body painting, whipped cream licking, and food fighting are milder forms of wamming. The goal is usually to find common household items that are slippery, edible, and don’t stain or sting the skin. Jello stains, for example, while pudding doesn’t. Margarine is better than butter, for example, because butter and milk products stink on the skin. Alcohol and sugar products should be kept away from the vaginal area. Trash bags or dropcloths are usually placed on the floor, and shaved pubic hair is often a prerequisite. Wamming can be done with one sexual partner at a time or in orgy fashion, although most wammers prefer one partner at a time. The appeal is that it stimulates all five senses at the same time.”
Pass the Condiments, Please!
While a lot of WAM and Sploshing fetishists don’t involve sex acts with the fetish, there are some who do. Sex and sexual acts can also be a big part of WAM especially using restraints on your partner to be able to douse and drench them in all sorts of delicious substances. The act of restraining someone adds to the excitement because they can not get away from whatever recipe for fun you have come up with… sweet or savory this is thrilling for many who enjoy the power play of having someone submissive to them. Then you have others who take personal enjoyment of food play to a more personal level, using various food stuffs to bring them to climax by the feel, look and smell of some slick or sticky substance smeared on their flesh. Seattle-based journalist Dan Savage wrote a sex Q&A column called Savage Love for The Stranger and a letter he received touched upon WAM for sexual pleasure.
My roommate uses condiments to lubricate his penis when he beats off. He tries to be sneaky when he takes mayonnaise or ketchup out of the kitchen, but I’ve seen him do it. When he does, a rhythmic slurping sound can soon be heard over the radio that he only turns up loud when he beats off. I am seriously disgusted because he puts the condiments back into the refrigerator when he’s finished. I don’t want to make things weird, but I also don’t want to use the same condiments he’s used to lube up his dick when he beats off. How do I make him stop? – Sloppy Seconds
If you just want to make him stop, SS, I suggest you empty a bottle of Tabasco sauce into the bottle of ketchup in your fridge, or a few tubes of BenGay into your mayonnaise. That will put a stop to his condiment abuse. Or you can be a man about it, SS, and tell him to go buy some actual lube or, if he’s a wet-and-messy fetishist, suggest that he buy himself play-time-only condiments and keep ’em in a small fridge in his room. – Dan Savage
So the bottom line seems to be – whatever your taste… savory or sweet, group or solo there is a wide variety of foods and fantasies to try when it comes to WAM and Sploshing. You just have to find like minded fetish foodie friends who enjoy it too and you’re guaranteed to have a good time. Like with anything new though, you should learn about what foods are best for this type of play. You can check out our Fetish 101 this month for some slippery suggestions to ease you into the world of WAM and Sploshing. As long as it’s SSC (safe, sane and consensual), we’re all for fun with food! As Christina Aguilera would say, “If you ain’t dirrty, you ain’t here to party.” Salirophiliacs would strongly agree!
We found a few videos that will hopefully make you “sploshgasm” by the time you’re finished watching…