If you happen to be fetish curious and you think you could be interested in a little pain play, Spanking Fetish is a great place to start. It’s easy. Equipment isn’t necessary, though you can of course invest in a cheap paddle or flogger, but a bare hand and a willing butt are really all you need. It’s fun! Bending over the knee of your partner and baring your butt cheeks is sure to create a few giggles from the both of you. It’s safe. Take it easy, take it slow, and safely establish your own pain limits. Below we’ve put together a few Dos and Do Nots to help you on your journey into the extremely rewarding world of spanking and pain play.
- DO – ask your partner for permission to spank. As certain fetishes become more mainstream there is a tendency to forego important etiquette. Permission to spank your partner is essential before you start waving your hands around in their direction, because without consent what you are doing is tantamount to assault. Always remember SSC. Safe. Sane. Consensual.
- DO NOT – slap away wildly at your partner’s body. Spanking the kidneys, hips, or places like the tailbone can be very painful and will instantly take the joy out of any session. To start with, concentrate on the fleshy part of the butt cheeks. The butt is an erogenous zone, so most pleasure will be derived from spanking that area in particular, and not the areas around it.
- DO – start slowly and build up the pace. Communicate with your partner at all times to learn what they like and what they don’t like and to establish how hard they want to be spanked.
- DO NOT – be a hardcore spanking masochist. There is more to spanking than beating a butt tender, pink and sore. Maybe tickle and caress the butt cheeks between spanks. Or brush your fingertips lightly over their genitals or anus. Maybe your spanking session will become foreplay and will lead to other things? Maybe they’ll climax there and then? The contrast between soft and hard play can be very erotic to many people. Be sensual in your spanking and reap the rewards.
- DO – consider spicing things up with roleplay or costumes. A little roleplay always goes a long way to help people feel more comfortable with new sexual experiences. Feeling like you are playing a character can help take away some of the natural inhibitions you may feel trying something new for the first time.
- DO NOT – forget to have a safe word in place. A safe word is fundamental in all BDSM play and for spanking it is no different. Agree on a word before you start to play that will not be confused with having a good time, and stop instantly if that word is spoken by your partner.
- DO – think about taking things further if you are both prepared to do so. If everybody is having fun and spanking is proving to be a big turn on then maybe consider trying out what it’s like to use a paddle, a cane or maybe even a whip? There are many forms of spanking and corporal punishment out there, and many different toys to incorporate into your play. But do not run before you can walk. Take things slowly and consensually and see where they lead you.
- DO NOT – forget to kiss and caress your partner after spanking sessions. Reassure your partner with love and affection and you will find your sexy new activity may actually strengthen the bond between you. You may even find yourselves seeking out new BDSM activities to enhance that bond and take your relationship further.
If you try spanking and find that you enjoy it, that’s great, have fun with your new fetish. If you find you don’t like it, that’s fine too. We all like different things. Keep experimenting with fetish to find what you do like. If however, you find that spanking and pain play is very much up your street then maybe consider joining a fetish group near you where you can take your interest further. Of course, you can find all kinds of spanking fetish on Clips4Sale.com – the home of all things fetish. Check out their many spanking related categories to get your juices flowing! But above all, have fun!