So…you want to bring sex toys into the bedroom, but you’re puzzled how to introduce it to your guy or guy, or even just flying solo.
If you’re a couple, have a conversation. Don’t just whip out a dildo and hope for the best. You wouldn’t just bring home another girl or guy for a threesome without talking to your partner, would you? This is the same idea. Toys can be scary for some people. Men feel like they are being replaced or feel less than if you tell them you’re not orgasming. Say something like let’s try this—it would be hot. Or I’ve been fantasizing about this for some time. Now I have it, and I want you to use it on me.
Make it more about exploration. You might want to try the toy on your own to start with and familiarize yourself with it. Try it when your partner isn’t home. Start out with something non-threatening like a small, relatively quiet vibrator. Don’t break out a 10-inch dildo or a giant Hitachi Magic Wand to start. Then maybe you could progress to some light bondage. Have a 50 Shades kind of night or weekend.
If you’re a woman flying solo, toys can be much better than your finger or hand. The vibrations of many toys can give you a different kind of orgasm, maybe even hit your spot, something you might never have achieved with a partner and/or penetrative sex. I’ve got a whole toy box of toys that are great when I’m alone or when a boyfriend or booty call comes into my bedroom. Most guys think it’s hot and don’t get worried about being replaced.
There are so many sex toys for guys out there right now. Unfortunately, there’s still the stigma that it’s not manly to use them, or if you have them, people will think you’re not getting enough sex. Both are these things are usually far from the truth. We’re in the 21st century, and many men own toys from masturbators to prostate massagers to sex dolls to cock rings and beyond. Another cool thing about men’s toys is they can make you last longer. If you use a masturbator on your own, you can train yourself to go even longer or do something called edging. Cock rings can make you bigger, harder, and last longer. Whether you’re a single guy or in a relationship it’s time to upgrade from your hand. Go and check out an adult shop and see what’s out there. Don’t be shy and talk to the salesperson. Or, do your research online and go in knowing what you want. Be adventurous. If this is all too much, there are thousands of sites online to purchase sex toys.
Sex toys have so much to offer. They open a new world for your solo game for you to get to know your own body better and a new world of incredible sensations for you and your partner to explore. If you’re out of town, they’re great for companionship and can keep you on the straight and narrow with your partner. Go ahead and build your arsenal of toys. You might just find that you can’t live without sex toys once you start using them. And, there’s nothing wrong with that.