Many might call Sarah Gregory the Queen of Spanking, but she just refers to herself as a girl who loves to be spanked or her coined term a Spanko. She’s a switch so you will see her on the giving and receiving ends of a spanking.And, she recently scored Best Female Spankee from the 2017 Spanking Awards presented by spankingblogg.com.
We sat down and asked her how this became her fetish, what turns her on about it, what makes a good spanking and much more. You will definitely learn a lot from this interview and there will be a quiz, and it won’t be multiple choice. Just kidding… or are we?
Let’s start at the beginning. Spanking is a fetish as well as a very popular genre. Many people realize they have this fetish early in life. How did you get started in this?
I have been intrigued and curious about spanking since I was 5 years old. I can remember watching mainstream movies that had short spanking scenes in them and being so intrigued, rewinding them over and over. I would hear the word and get those butterflies in my stomach. I was always looking up the word “spanking” in the dictionary. I didn’t know why I felt this way and was frankly embarrassed by it and made sure to hide it very well. I later learned that I was a “spanko” and had a hard wiring for spanking. I can remember playing school with friends and making up scenarios where they were the teacher and me the student and I had to be spanked. I remember sitting in school growing up wishing my teacher would just take me over her lap and spank me. I only ever fantasized about women spanking me. I was scared about these thoughts for the longest time and suppressed them through my childhood, teens, and early twenties. About 11 years ago I finally decided to embrace this part of me and jumped full force into the “scene.” I started with videos before getting into the social spanking scene. I worked for Punished Brats in 2007 and they were the first company I worked for and the first time I was ever really spanked was in their videos. So yes, I got my first ever spanking in a film. I would say after I shot for them, things took off and took off big. Other companies, the Clare Fonda sites like girlspanksgirl.com and spankedsweeties.com booked me in LA, then Shadowlane.com in Vegas booked me and it took off from there and I was working a lot. Years into just modeling I decided to open my own company and I have loved every minute of it since. It does get stressful and way too busy at times, but hey, don’t all jobs. I can truly say I love my job and what I do for a living. It is my passion. How many people can say that?
What turns you on personally about spanking?
It’s so much more than just a sexual turn on, though that is a part of it. The sting on my bottom slowly turns into a delicious warmth that spreads to my girl parts and does definitely turn me on. Spankings also activate the production of endorphins, which make me happier than any drug could, without the disorienting side effects.
But it is so much more than that! Almost everybody I bottom to I am in a loving relationship with. Sometimes I am very stressed and just need a good cry. Knowing that I can be spanked to the point of tears safely and carefully by someone who loves me is the best! Once I have had a good cry, I feel SO much better, but I couldn’t let go and get that release without a spanking by a trusted partner.
And I DO get punished, though it is quite rare (because I am a GOOD girl!) When that happens, it is always because I get stressed and either belittle myself or put myself in harm’s way. I have two strict mother figures (a “Momma” and a “Mommy”) and a doting, fiercely protective Daddy, who tend to my punishment needs. I always approach them and ask for the spanking, and they do it, and it REALLY stings, but it is a very loving, protective experience and after it’s all over, I am hugged and comforted. Afterwards, I feel warm, loved, valued, safe, protected, cherished. Basically the best thing in the world. After ten years of searching, I now have an entire Scene “family”, with a Momma, a Mommy, a Daddy, Uncles, a wonderful, loving boyfriend, sisters, play partners, lovers, Submissives, and protectors. I am now, for the first time in my life, never truly alone.
I notice you’re a switch. Do you prefer giving or receiving spankings?
I actually like both so much. I guess n my personal away from the camera life I prefer to bottom and in my professional life in front of the camera I love both topping and bottoming the same. I do love spanking naughty boys a lot which is why I do sessions with them.
On your site and Clips4Sale store you generally use your hand or a wooden hairbrush, but sometimes canes, straps, and other tools are employed. What is your favorite object to give and/or receive a spanking with?
The hand. My favorite thing to be spanked with is the hand and favorite to give is the hand. It is so personal and you feel more connected to the person when you are touching their bottom with each smack and visa versa. If I had to choose something other than a hand….. I LOVE to use canes and straps when giving and I prefer to receive leather and not wood.
What makes a good spanking?
Technically, a good, slow warmup, then a Top who pays attention to my non-verbal (and sometimes very verbal) cues as to what I need during the spanking, then a loving, soothing, cool down (we call that “aftercare”). It’s a lot like a good workout.
However, the biggest thing actually has little to do with skill. It is about the connection between me and my partner. If that partner has earned my trust, I can almost always just relax and put myself in their care and enjoy it. I still retain the right to safe word, but with trusted partners, that almost never happens. Fitting the spanking to the situation is also important. Sometimes I want a long, slow, sensual spanking, sometimes a punishment, often I like to be bratty and get snatched over the knee, and sometimes the purpose of the spanking is to get turned on.
With movies like 50 Shades, spanking has become more mainstream. How do you feel about it and what have they done right and wrong in portraying the fetish?
I am VERY happy that people can now be a LITTLE more open about being a spanko, but, for some reason, Hollywood can’t seem to understand that we spankos, and most other fetishists, are just regular people who like things a little bit different. Hollywood almost always portrays the kinky person as somehow damaged (same thing happened in Secretary, but the spanking was WAAAY better.)
The romantic aspects of the leads in 50 were hot as Hell, but the spankings, including the supposedly non-consensual (it wasn’t) and severe (it wasn’t) belting were pretty lame. My kink friends were sitting there waiting for the rest . . . (That’s IT??!!) The BEST things they did were the negotiation and the sympathetic portrayal of the two leads. You get to like them, which is a very good thing.
If you’re dating someone new, what do you think is the best way to let them know this is your fetish?
Frigging tell them. According to the Durex World Sex Survey back in the 80’s, 42% of Americans like spanking and employ it is some aspect of their lives. So your chances are a little better than 4 out of 10. If you want a partner who is into spanking, why waste all that time trying to hint and manipulate when you can just cut to the chase. If they’re in, great! If not . . . meh. Plenty of fish in the sea.
Do you go fetish clubs and/or dungeons to engage in your fetish? And, have you ever thought about being a Domme?
First off, I AM a Domme, at least some of the time. My site, MissSarahGregory.com explains that side of me more. And I love the thrill of being in control over another person, the high I get from their trust in me, and the joy of taking care of the needs of another human being. Some of these guys have no other safe way to experience this so, while I get to give and take all the spankings any girl could ever want, and from the best Tops and Bottoms on the world, these guys have to do without for long periods of time. I am often their first and, frequently, their only outlet. To see them so happy afterwards makes me, in return, also very, very happy.
And yes, I sometimes go to dungeons and fetish clubs, but my best love will always be spanking parties and domestic-style spankings. I am just a truly naughty little spanko at heart.
Mainstream porn features a lot of spanking. Because of this, many men think most women want to engage in this, and might just start spanking a woman without her consent. Do you think there are other reasons why most men would think this?
Yes. That would be because they are morons. First, only 2 out of 5 are into it. Close to half, but still less. Second, YOU DO NOT TOUCH ANOTHER PERSON WITHOUT CONSENT. WITH consent, you get to engage in some wonderful kinky play. Without it, you end up, if you’re lucky, with a knot on your head and, if not lucky, wearing cuffs, headed to jail. Normally intelligent people recognize the difference between fantasy and reality.
Because of the 50 Shades series and other mainstream films, people might be curious to engage in spanking, but this can also lead to someone being hurt or having a bad experience. It needs to be done properly. What is the proper way to spank someone?
For someone new, two main things: ALWAYS negotiate, and ALWAYS err on the side of light. By negotiating, I mean how to start, how to stop, role play or not, safe words, implements, positions, hot buttons (words or phrases that you enjoy) every aspect. While this may seem tedious at first, it pays big dividends when you start to play and get you’re needs met, and those of your partner. Second, after a few times, there is less that needs negotiation, because you are familiar with the needs of your partner and they may become more open to more intense and exotic play, because you have earned their trust. As a general rule, with somebody new, unless he/she asks for intensity, I start lighter and build up gradually. I watch for physical signs of stress (tightened muscles, strained vocalizations, hard sweating, etc.) if I see those, I back off a little and let them recover slightly. You can always spank some more of it’s too light, but you can’t take it back if you go too hard to begin with. They have to be comfortable with you before you can make them truly, delightfully UN-comfortable.
Other than that, follow the basic rules I mentioned above: warmup, buildup, pay attention to the Bottom’s nonverbal cues, and aftercare.
And hit them on their BUTT, not tailbone, not side, and thighs only if they ask. Geez!
Some people consider being spanking against feminism. How do you feel about this?
I totally disagree. The spanking world, especially the business end, is dominated by women. We get better jobs, better pay, all kinds of awards and gifts. And we get to call our own shots. Even in the non-business world, women are TREASURED in the spanking community. Many parties charge less for them and they often have their ways paid because they are so important to the success of any event. Feminism is all about empowerment and respect. We may be the most empowered women on the planet. And, to point out the obvious, we WANT to be spanked. I would most likely not be in ANY of my relationships if they were not into spanking. It fulfills OUR needs, not just those of the Top.
What are some of the most popular clips and their stars on your Clips4Sale store?
My most popular and best selling series is actually my Strictmoor Academy series. I post clips from this on all of my websites. More information on this project can be found at: strictmooracademy.com.
My other most popular clips deal with mommy/daughter spanking themes and daddy/daughter spanking themes. These are all role play. Some of the tops clips star me, obviously, Adriana Evans, Amelia Jane Rutherford, Pandora Blake, Dana Specht, Miss Elizabeth, Stevie Rose, Harley Havik, Alex Reynolds, my daddy Tubaman, and my partner/boyfriend John Osborne. These are just a few of the big names in the spanking industry who are featured in my top selling films.
Where else can people find you?
My Clips4Sale Store – https://www.clips4sale.com/spanking-sarah-gregory
My Twitter – https://twitter.com/sarahgregory02
My Member’s Site – http://www.sarahgregoryspanking.com
My Website – http://www.modelsarahgregory.com
My Spanking Blog – http://www.spankingsarahgregory.com
Spanking Sarah Gregory is one of the most popular stores featuring the spanking fetish. Sarah features fresh news faces and established fetish and spanking stars including Dommes and famous spanking models . Her clips involve females and males, and are edited, directed, and produced by Sarah. She also stars in many of the scenes as both a top and a bottom. Make sure to follow her for a spanking good time!