Fifty Shades of Grey is a hot series of books and the two movies (Fifty Shades of Grey and Fifty Shades Darker) are even hotter. But, what if you found yourself in with a real life Christian Grey…would it be as fiery as it was on screen for Dakota Johnson (who played Anastasia Steele) and Jamie Dornan (who was Christian Grey)? Nai, a writer for Elite Daily, did just that and found out the fantasy can be better than reality.
Nai dove back into the dating world just a few months after being out of it for three years. She did the “right thing” (or so Cosmo tells us) of waiting until the second date. Her first time was your average sexual encounter with missionary and a few creative moves. Nai hadn’t had sex in about 14 months, so she was a bit on edge, but it all worked out.
It took a while, but Nai realized she was dating a real life Christian Grey minus the animalistic charm, chiseled body, and American accent. He had some stereotypical questions for her…like what are your fantasies and do you like to be dominated? Nai didn’t have any answers, because she’d never been asked or thought about it too much.
Immediately her mind went to the script from the hit movie Fifty Shades of Grey. Would she be Anastasia Steele? She responded she hadn’t thought much about it and threw the fantasy question back at her pseudo Christian. He had some interesting responses including “I’d like it if you imagined you were blind and trying to find a lollipop.”
Nai was taken aback by his response—it was all too crazy, fast, and they had just had sex for the first time the previous week. Thoughts of being tied up and hot wax being poured on her ran through her head.
She wondered if she should tell him she wasn’t into it or if she should go along with it and face the unknown for something that could actually be enjoyable. Maybe this was what the cool kids were doing and/or what mature people did behind closed doors. Could adult sex really be like Fifty Shades?
What’s a girl to do, but consult her friends? Some thought it was out too there and very early in the relationship, but others thought it sounded amazing.
Nia didn’t want to come across like she was vanilla, boring, or unwilling to try new things. You should try things before you can say never again, right? She started out by pouring hot wax on her Christian. The rest of her activities she wouldn’t reveal, but she decided this dominatrix stuff wasn’t for her. She wasn’t a woman who entertained sexual fantasies or was into fetishes.
She continued to date Christian for a few months, but was exhausted being something she wasn’t. Nai has been single for almost a year, and she’s happy. And, she’s come to the realization that the sex in Fifty Shades isn’t as hot in real life as the movies.
How about you? Let’s get the conversation started and see if our readers have had different shades of experiences with this.