In case you’ve been living under a rock, we’re going to tell you who Gwyneth Paltrow is and why her thoughts on anal sex matter. She’s a 44-year old mother actress and the owner of the mainstream site Goop, a lifestyle site that goes beyond the kitchen and into the bedroom at times and has covered swingers’ parties, sex toys, lube, and S&M. You might know her better as arm candy for rock star Chris Martin, front man of Coldplay.
Ms. Paltrow has recently penned and published The Sex Issue on Goop. It covered orgasms, sex toys, casual sex, porn and anal sex. But, what caught the Daily Mail’s eye (who wrote about her issue) was the anal sex portion, which Paltrow consulted Paul Johannides, Psy.D. who authored The Guide to Getting It On!
Paltrow is very frank about anal sex. She lets people know they’re not alone if it titillates them and it’s “practically standard in the modern bedroom repertoire”. The media (in this case HBO and porn) leads people to believe everyone is trying it, but less than half of the hetero crowd has ventured down that road. Johannides gives tips on doing it comfortably, the risks, and where the obsession originated.
While some people view anal sex as taboo, Paltrow dives right in with her comprehensive guide, but lets her readers know not everyone’s doing it. She references a CDC report of 30 to 40 percent of heterosexual men and women having tried it and that the taboo stigma is starting to erode.
Of course, Paltrow isn’t going to sugarcoat the risks. She does disclose it’s the riskiest sex act in relation to HIV and other STDs. Although the tone of the article is very frank and Paltrow has always been very open about her sex life, she doesn’t go into if it personally titillates her or her personal experiences on the topic.
Many common questions on the deed are fielded by Johannides Psy.D. He attributes the interest in talking about and potentially engaging in the act on the porn industry being readily available online. More heterosexuals were indulging in it in their private lives, but had many issues if they were using porn as their guide, because it’s totally inaccurate. A man can’t just shove his penis in a woman’s ass, women must relax their sphincter muscles, and lube is a necessity. Johannides also discusses the importance of using condom which are not present in porn, due to the fact women are 17 times more likely to get HIV from anal sex. Other risks include pain, fecal matter entering a man’s urethra, and the mess it all makes.
The best part of the article is when it talks about making anal enjoyable. Johannides talks about the importance of both partners wanting to engage in it and not feeling pressured. Also, you need to find the right angle so the penis doesn’t hit the rectal wall. He advises again being drunk or high or using numbing lube to dull the pain, while having anal sex. Pain can mean you need to adjust or might have to stop so no one gets hurt. If your partner isn’t into full on anal right now or ever, Johannides recommends using a gloved or lubes finger instead.
Read the entire Goop article which includes a roundup of sex toys, costumes and lingerie, sexy photography, and an intro into bondage which includes handcuffs, games, apps, rentable dungeons in L.A. Go to http://goop.com/reality-check-anal-sex/.