Hey Jenn, Why are you using a photo of a BBW sitting on a burger for the dating site story? Don’t you think it’s in “bad taste” to perpetuate the stereotype that all BBW’s eat unhealthy food? I really liked the articles, but I just feel that you guys could have chosen better pictures to make your point. Shame on you for your photo choices this month though. – Anonymous
Hi Anonymous –
Well, it’s a good question. However, one thing I have learned while being a writer is that you can’t please everyone. That couldn’t be more apparent from the questions and comments we’ve received about this month’s issue spotlighting BBW’s.
A few comments about last month’s Featured Fetish – BBWs came from women who assumed that we had no idea or right to write about BBWs and the fetish. A bit of reverse shaming in a sense as one person mentioned that we were, “...probably a bunch of skinny chicks who couldn’t comprehend all of the aspects of what a bigger girl may feel or have to go through in the real world.”
To set the record straight, of the three main staff writers for Monthly Fetish, both myself and Anka can proudly stand in the ranks of BBW’s. I happen to currently be a size 22 / 24 (depending the brand), so as we began receiving comments, I began to question my choice of artwork used for this month’s issue…
Had I chosen an image so off the rails wrong that it was insulting? Did the images used last month show body positivity or were they contradictory? What was the focus and issue with the imagery and why did it make people want to flame us for it?
The majority of the comments about our BBW edition have thus far been very positive, but there have been some people who voiced their disapproval for some of the images we used in this months articles. Images are powerful and we do understand that they can evoke all kinds of emotions when seeing them. I don’t believe the images I chose to use were in poor taste or insulting because I looked at them for the beauty in all of them. I believe they showed strong, beautiful women expressing themselves in a positive way which is why I chose them to be featured in last month’s issue.
We received the most feedback and questions about the image shown here which is from the dating site article I wrote, “Looking4BBW: Plus Sized Dating Sites, BBW Forums & More,” and as you can see features a really cute BBW girl on her laptop, sitting on top of a juicy burger. To me, this girl has fantastic heels, a cute outfit, great hair and she looks fun and smart.
Someone said it was a stereotype to have used this image because it goes along the lines that all big women have unhealthy diets. Frankly, I love a good burger and I could care less who wants to try and shame me for enjoying one. So the truth is when I decided to use the image it was with the thought of how fun this girl probably is to go out to eat with on a date, plus as I said, she’s super cute!
The stereotype that all bigger women have an unhealthy diet will sadly never go away. We can sit at a table and eat a salad and drink water or say we’re vegetarian or whatever else all day long, but in the back of some peoples minds they are thinking we’re going to go out afterwards and eat a pint of Ben & Jerry’s to make up for eating that salad.
What a lot of “healthy” people seem to forget as well is that some bigger people have issues not related to what food they eat, such as medical issues, which cause them to be heavier. Just because someone is heavy doesn’t mean that they are not healthy. For example (knock on wood), I have always had perfect blood pressure and never had high cholesterol. I don’t take any medications and I eat healthy (except for drinking soda) because my husband is an amazing chef. But I’m still a size 22, and I’m not ashamed of that fact. It’s just who I am and I’m unique in my own way.
Everyone here at Monthly Fetish tries very hard to offer our readers helpful information and clear insight as we strive to shine a positive and informative light on all the various fetishes that we highlight. We’ve only just begun, so please keep reading and letting us know your thoughts. We thank everyone for taking the time to send us feedback!
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